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My wife doesn't like it when I spend too much time in space. What's the trick?

I'm sure you all got to face this problem at one point in your career. What are the key points to succeed in RL/NewEden conciliation.

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canhasgank [ Moderator ]

The first thing you should do is figure out how much time is "too much time". Make an agreement on how much time a week you've got available to play and on what days. Are there any days that are off limits (movie Saturday etc.)? As long as you do your part of the work around the house and she's not left to herself the rest of the time, I don't see it being too much of an issue. Keep her in the loop and check with her before making large commitments on time in game. Relationships are all about communication, so communicate.

If she has a problem with you playing altogether the issue probably runs a little deeper than can be discussed in a short post on here.

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canhasgank
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Lol… and I’m not even married :P

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darinas [ Moderator ]

If you can't convince her to get her own account and join you wiping the universe clean of pirate scum (or extracting tears, as per your own opinions) then you need to discuss compromises with her. Explain that you'll need a few hours (minimum) at a time to play your "socially-advanced educational hobby" and find out what she needs in return. Works for me! (And I don't have to lie about the educational bit!!)

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brynava

A couple of quick tips that work for me:

Schedule time for you to play

Bring up the fact that you are home instead of out bar-hopping (keeping you out of trouble)

I like Darina's mention of it being a 'hobby'

My wife's a nurse so I get the benefit of playing while she's at work (Have her get a night job - and play while she's at work)

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do won [ Editor ]

Do it when she is asleep ;)

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gorgoton
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not good: I have to sleep too! :)

do won
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If you haven’t got any kids already – get her pregnant, then she’ll want to sleep more ;)

gorgoton
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good one. Maybe i’ll just tell her I’m training an account forour kids when they grow up.

alec grahm
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The issue with the ‘have kids’ option is it generally precludes sleep or gaming after nine months.

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ryanqzqz

Have her get a trial account and see what Eve is like. Even if she doesn't want to continue to play, it will give her a perspective on what you do in Eve, so (if she's in tune to you) she'll understand your perspective on playing the game. Worst case scenario, at least she'll realize its more than 'just a game' and really is as in depth as I'm sure you've told her.

My wife plays with me, and she's on more than I am because she's a stay at home mom. It's nice because our PC's are right next to each other so we are spending time in RL together and cooperating and etc etc and still getting our Eve fix.

You may get lucky, she might get hooked.

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harlock [ Editor ]

Define times when you can play. That's what I used to do when I was a raider on another MMO ;) I play EvE in a more cool paced manner so it's less an issue.

Still, sticking to your own schedule is important (cause we all know we often play more than we should).

Get her to play, not necessaraly EvE because if shes a beginner with games that one isn't the best to start off. Try something easier.

But beware : she might start playing more than you :D :D

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bucky o'hair

BAH...Hire NOIR to gank her... err... second thoght maybe not....

It is a fine, and ever changing line with my wife, i'm very lucky she is tollerant of my obsesion. It helps that I keep up with the "Honey Do List".

Good luck

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